UNPACKING THE DIVERSE AND COMPLEX REALITY OF TRAUMA AND ABUSE
For the past seven years, I have been curating a practice of informing, educating, and inviting conversation about the prolific and complex adversities of sex trafficking and child sexual abuse. I believe that the unjust societal privileges, the intimate intricacies of diverse human experiences, and the lifelong residual impacts of abuse make the issue of trauma itself a communal and global problem that demands more than spotlight attention.
The roots of this issue are known by those with the privilege to heal, and I believe survivors have the awareness to change the current trajectory of this ancient epidemic. Not only for the victims, but also the perpetrators, the judicial systems, and the communities they reside in. Shifting abuse from a closed-door subject that demands victims to live with the profound aftermath alone, where it cycles and erodes lives, into a known one.
I recently returned to University after a seven-year hiatus where I focused on individual and community based research around the impacts of childhood sexual assault and trauma. More notably how the residual embodied impacts often manifest into autoimmune illness within survivors.
As an 18-year survivor of horrific incest and sex trafficking, I myself suffer from a debilitating autoimmune illness that is currently at a full flare in my body. My trauma may demand healing, but my privilege leaves option for it. Although I may face hurdles in access to resources, these same resources are designed for and directed to the white person. Therefore, as a white, privileged, woman I have had the very rare opportunity to heal mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in manners that are more often than not supported by the modern white supremacist culture.
White people perpetuate trauma through our colonization, racism, segregation, and superiority complex and then decline those we hurt access to healing. Whether through our ethnocentric ideology, the mix of state and church, or our white-centred justice system, we continue to harm without just consequence.
My goals within my work simple. I want to further my own understanding of trauma (e.g. workshops and writings) into critical discourses that do not centre whiteness. I understand the impacts of abuse, and now I want to use my understanding to study the History behind the origins trauma of our world.
Everything I am privileged to learn in University weaves itself into the work I currently provide survivors and further informs me of how I can do it better.
HOW TO SUPPORT ME:
95% of what I do now is free, but none of it comes without cost on my end. I am a full-time advocate, and a full-time student, living with a debilitating autoimmune disorder. Every cent of support I receive provides me with the resources to the further my studies and continue committing to the sustainability of my work. Any and all extensions of support, both free and monetary, helps move my work forward.
"The moment I saw Skyler from across the room, my heart whispered..."There is a survivor." Not only a survivor...but thriver.
As Skyler Mechelle opened her soul to us and shared a piece of her writing..the raw, real emotion I felt could not be denied. This woman was a force to reckoned with. This woman was going to change how we spoke about and perceived trauma and abuse and grief and loss and sexuality and fluidity and love and pain.
This woman needed to be heard and seen and cherished and demanded to be. And I was able to take her all in...every word...and truly be planted into her life at the time of her abuse. And then brought back to life as she brought herself to healing.
Skyler is a miracle.
Her story is just that."
-Survivor, Master's Programme Student